I Know Marriage Counseling Led to My Divorce but I Don’t Regret It
When my husband and I were married for eight years I packed up our children and moved to my sister’s house. I was leaving him. I wasn’t going back. I was sure of it.Our first counselor was a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and we saw him for eight months. During that time, I remember my sister imparting some fairly accurate words.Our first attempt at marriage counseling was a Band-Aid. Things improved for six years. I guess that’s a respectable amount of time. Our first counselor didn’t have the advanced training to recognize what our psychologist marriage counselor diagnosed.My husband quit attending couples counseling for shy of a year. I decided to continue seeing our marriage counselor by myself. I was miserably unhappy and I couldn’t get him to move forward. I decided to work on my own self-reflection, growth, and progress.But something funny happened along the way. The more I learned about myself the healthier I became. The more I strived to abandon patterns of unhealthy behavior. I worked on my pleasing, fixing, and rescuing genes.I was growing. I was evolving. I was moving forward.
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