3 Psychological Habits Making You Unhappy
We’re constantly looking for the next big idea, the next big promotion, or the next new person in our life who is going to make us happier.But for thousands of years, wisdom traditions across the world have been telling us that happiness comes from within ourselves, not outside. In other words…As a psychologist, I see evidence of this every day in my work with clients. Specifically, I see first-hand how how destructive mental habits can sabotage even the best external events, achievements, and relationships in our lives.If you want to be happier and more at peace in your life, try to recognize these psychological habits in yourself and work to correct them.You feel frustrated with your spouse, so you decided that it’s a good idea to immediately air all your biggest grievances against them.
You feel lazy and unmotivated, so you decide you need to stay in and rest instead of exercising or hanging out with friends as you promised.It’s tempting to follow our feelings because they’re so loud. And because they’re loud — because we feel them so strongly — they seem persuasive and convincing.For example: The anger and outrage you feel after reading your sister’s Facebook post argue loudly in favour of commenting back with a snarky and sarcastic comment that you feel is sure to show her the error of her ways. Of course, we all know how helpful snarky Facebook comments are…If it’s so obvious in the abstract that acting impulsively on how we feel isn’t a great idea…
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